Lyfe as it is

There have been a number of challenges that I have faced in these 27 years that I have lived so far. Some have been met with success, some with failure, while some I have failed to notice.

Now, a new challenge awaits me. All through my 27 years, I have never lived away from my family for a long time. Discounting the trip to Dublin which was a two and a half month affair.

Now, I have to move on to a complete new city away from my family for a longer duration.

There are one too many thoughts that are running through my mind right now on how I’ll be able to manage things there. Life at home was easy. You have the house to live in, have mom to cook you delicious food, have friends and family to take care of all the other things. In short you realy did not have to worry about the other things in your life they merged into it almost seamlessly.

The problem now is that I would have to integrate these other things into my life so as not to disturb the continuity of life.

Daddy……it hurts

Normally, I do not entertain forwards, but this one left a scar on me..

“Daddy……it hurts”

My name is Chris ,
I am three,
My eyes are swollen..
I cannot see.

I must be stupid,
I must be bad,
What else could have made,
My daddy so mad?

I wish I were better,
I wish I weren’t ugly,
Then maybe my mommy,
Would still want to hug me.

I can’t do a wrong,
I can’t speak at all,
Or else I’m locked up,
All day long.

When I’m awake,
I’m all alone,
The house is dark,
My folks aren’t home.

When my mommy does come home,
I’ll try and be nice,
So maybe I’ll just get,
One whipping tonight.

I just heard a car,
My daddy is back,
From Charlie’s bar

I hear him curse,
My name is called ,
I press myself,
Against the wall.

I try to hide,
From his evil eyes,
I’m so afraid now,
I’m starting to cry.

He finds me weeping,
Calls me ugly words,
He says its my fault,
He suffers at work.

He slaps and hits me,
And yells at me more,
I finally get free,
And run to the door.

He’s already locked it,
And I start to bawl,
He takes me and throws me,
Against the hard wall.

I fall to the floor,
With my bones nearly broken,
And my daddy continues,
With more bad words spoken.

“I’m sorry!” I scream,
But it’s now much too late,
His face has been twisted,
Into an unimaginable shape.

The hurt and the pain,
Again and again,
Oh please God, have mercy!
Oh please let it end!

And he finally stops,
And heads for the door,
While I lay there motionless,
Sprawled on the floor.

My name is Chris ,
I am three,
Tonight my daddy,
Murdered me.

And you can help,
Sickens me to the soul,
If you read this,
And don’t pass it on.

I pray for your forgiveness,
You would have to be,
One heartless person,
Not to be affected,
By this Poem.

And because you ARE affected,
Do something about it!
So all I ask you to do,
Is pass this on!

Please help.

Its time to be Good :)

Yesterday, some of my friends on Twitter started a unique campaign to lighten up Diwali – the festival of lights. Every tweet with the hashcode #DeepWish would contribute a certain amount from those who wish to join in to a charity called Goonj that works for educating the girl child.

What started as Rs. 0.25/- per tweet grew to Rs. 51/- per tweet and growing. This initiative started by @anaggh quickly caught up with the Twitterati and there have been over 380 tweets wishing Happy Diwali 🙂 #DeepWish

Here is a list of Twitterati who contributed towards this noble cause. (Updated)

TOTAL Rs. 63.75/-

You wish to contribute too, please send an email to me and I will get things done.

Thank you and wish you a very Happy Diwali 🙂

Read more on #DeepWish

UPDATE:

And we’re done. #DeepWish is closed. 42 people, 476 tweets x Rs 63.75/tweet = Rs 30, 345. !! Plus some beautiful people who gave some lump some of Rs. 23, 072. 🙂 The Total Rs. 53, 417/-

Revisiting: 10 things to do before I turn 30

Last year I wrote about 10 things to do before I turn 30, so here I am re-visiting it again.

Here are the 10 thigns again and my comments below in italics 🙂

  1. Work for myself
  2. Still far far away from this, wonder when I’ll get close

  3. Drive a car
  4. Learnt to ride a two-wheeler, I have a Learning License and ready to be tested for a pukka license. 🙂

  5. Learn French, Spanish, German
  6. Thought of starting this and then left in between, lack of dedicated time..

  7. Get lost in a country where I don’t speak the language (a real wild one )
  8. Wild one, not sure if this will see light.

  9. Do a Parachute jump from a plane
  10. Same here, wild one.. hehe 🙂

  11. Make a bet I couldn’t afford to lose
  12. Looking for some one to bet, anyone interested?

  13. Get in the habit of excersising. Every Single Day.
  14. Started gymming, but couldn’t continue, laziness and wordload creeping in. 😦

  15. See the world
  16. Yeah, gonna do this some day 🙂

  17. Learn to play a musical instrument with some expertise
  18. Waiting in the wings… 🙂

  19. Get Married
  20. In about 2-3 years from now 🙂

Let me know if you can play a part in helping me getting these things done 🙂

Problems Galore!!

Some of the major problems that India faces

  1. Over-Population
  2. Water shortage in most parts of the country
  3. The standard of education in government schools
  4. High cost of real estate in urban india
  5. A ‘slow’ and ‘overburdened’ legal system
  6. Bad (pot holed) Roads
  7. The absence of a pan indian attitude to Hindi
  8. Communalism and divisive politics
  9. Low wages/rewards to the army
  10. Unemployability of youth
  11. Lack of jobs which pay decent wages.
  12. High cost / unavailability of electricity
  13. Farmer suicides & debt
  14. Inability to produce Olympic calibre sportsmen
  15. Border disputes with China and Pakistan
  16. Terrorists (internal)
  17. Terrorists (external)
  18. A poorly equipped police force
  19. Corruption in government
  20. Poor pay for nurses, teachers, police, armed forces
  21. Lack of healthcare in rural india
  22. Noise pollution in cities
  23. Environmental pollution
  24. Open sewage drains
  25. Open garbage bins
  26. Slums (not slum dwellers)
  27. Apathy in public service bodies, like the passport office, ration shop, government hospitals, rtos, electricity office, water supply board, city development authorities.
  28. Domestic violence, child labour, single woman, safety of ladies, economic issues of elderly people, corruption in municipal corporation…

Can we try to tackle these problems and emerge as a better India?

Not So Secret Ballot After All

Chaos reigned when I told the polling officer that I want to vote for no one in the list of the candidates listed. She simply said that I could not do like that. I told her that there is a provision provided to do just that and its Section 49-O. She asked the Booth in-charge for help, but the Booth in-charge too did not have a clue on what this section was. This chaos went on for almost 10 minutes on the correct process to handle situations like this. Finally the representative from the Election Commission was summoned and he calmly asked the Booth in-charge to get my signature on  the sheet and add in that I am not voting for the candidates that are listed in there and then himself sign the sheet.

With this drama happening in the polling booth, almost all of the people who stood behind me to cast their votes came to know about my choice, which is not the ideal scenario for something that’s known as a ‘Secret Ballot’

I feel that the best possible way to get out of such situations is for the Election Commission to introduce a button on the Electronic Voting Machines (EVMs) saying ‘None Of The Above’ . This will maintain the feature of ‘Secret Ballot’ and yet get to exercise the option of not voting for any of the candidates listed in the sheets.

Get Out and Vote!

Voting is a right which has been given by our Constitution and is very crucial for existence of a democratic set up. Unfortunately, half of the country’s population does not participate in this process. This is really a very sad approach on the part of the citizens. In some countries people are literally dying to be able to cast a ballot and make a difference. So my request to all of the concerned citizens to vote in the upcoming elections at any cost.

There are several other reasons to vote:

  • You should believe that every single vote counts. Governments have fallen and candidates have lost by one vote. So dont’t feel that your vote does not matters.
  • By voting you get the choice to choose the leaders. You decide whom do you want to lead.
  • Through voting you can express your opinion. Many of us want to convey what we feel about particular policy or how things should be. Voting is the best way to do that.
  • By voting you ensure that the candidate is made accountable to the public.
  • Voting is your national duty. If you vote then it shows that you are respecting the constitution of India.
  • If you get out to vote on election day, you can set right example for people around you. Let everyone know that you care enough about your homeland.
  • If you don’t vote you really have no right to complain about government decisions/policies you don’t like.
  • If you feel that each candidate is worst/corrupt/not eligible for vote. Go ahead and make use of 49-o and say “I Vote Nobody”. Else select best from worst.
  • The entire election process is based on ceratin arithemetics/calculations. After all it is just a number game. But if the voting percentage increases then let me tell you that only deserving candidates will be elected. It is only when we fail to vote, wrong people are elected.

This time around there are maximum number of young voters. Our past generation might not have voted but this generation needs to change the few things. A democracy is of no use when the government is of the people, for the people but not by the people.

There are few important topics looming over India which will decide our future. And the result of these policies will be inherited by the coming generation. The economic reforms, getting more digitalized, global warming, environment, fuel consumption, infrastructure, security, national integrity etc. It is very easy to be unconcerned about your right to vote and take a “whatever, who cares” kind of attitude about it. If you don’t vote, you effectively blow away your ability to have any influence as to how these issues should be sorted or how these issues will play out in future.

You will have to decide what you want to give to your coming generation. If you are taking voting for granted then just check out internet to find how many people have fought/died to get this weapon in several other countries.

Remember, People who don’t participate in political and democratic process are punished to be governed by the dumb.

You will have to vote this time. It is your right, responsibility and a weapon which you are being given. Now, Go out and Vote!!

10 things to do before I turn 30

I turned 25 today 😀

Here are a quickfire 10 things that I want to do before I turn 30.

  1. Work for myself
  2. Drive a car
  3. Learn French, Spanish, German
  4. Get lost in a country where I don’t speak the language (a real wild one :P)
  5. Do a Parachute jump from a plane
  6. Make a bet I couldn’t afford to lose
  7. Get in the habit of excersising. Every Single Day.
  8. See the world
  9. Learn to play a musical instrument with some expertise
  10. Get Married

Hope that these are not that difficult to achieve.

Cheers 🙂

We Dont need no Reservation

Yesterday the Supreme Court of India passed a landmark judgment regarding the reservations in education system. Though the battle against the reservation system has been lurking for a year now, followed by the much publicized protests and angry demonstrations across the country.

So now there is a 27% reservation for Other Backward Classes (OBCs) in central education institutions including Indian Institutes of Technology (IITs) and Indian Institutes of Management (IIMs). The Supreme Court ruled but also maintained that the “creamy layer” (details below) among the backwards would not get reservation.

According to Chief Justice K. G. Balakrishnan “Reservation is one of the tools used to preserve essence of equality so that disadvantaged groups can be brought to the forefront of civil life.”

In simple terms: The Apex Court upheld Article 15(5) that was inserted through the 93rd amendment, as well as the Central Education Institutions (Reserve Admission) Act. The amendment allowed reservations in all education institutions, including private colleges. Currently we have 27% quota for OBCs, 17% is reserved for SCs, and 7.5% for STs. The total reservation is now a whopping 49.5%.

What is the Creamy Layer?

Children of the following wont benefit.. for now…

  • Servicing and past Presidents, Vice Presidents, Supreme Court judges and High Court judges.
  • Class I and II officers of Central and State Services and Public Sector Units.
  • Colonels and above in Army and equivalent posts in Navy, Air Force.
  • Doctors, Lawyers, Industrialists.
  • People owning agricultural land above a certain limit.
  • Those who earn over Rs. 2.5 lakh annually.

I feel that the reservations if any should be at the School level and not above that as it kills the competitive spirit of education.

Woah!

“The warden threw a party in the county jail.
The prison band was there and they began to wail.
The band was jumpin and the joint began to swing.
You should’ve heard those knocked out jailbirds sing.
Let’s rock, everybody, lets rock.
Everybody in the whole cell block
Was dancin to the jailhouse rock.”
 

Woke me up from my sleep, I found my mobile phone singing in Elvis’ voice, I picked it up and answered the call.
“Wake up, you sleepy log… kitna soyega (how much would you sleep)… mera kaam karna hai na (you have to do my work)…” blurted my friend, I was not in a mood to listen to him at this moment, I had just woken and my eyes felt weak towards the sunlight pouring down the window in my room.
“That is to be done on Tuesday, tomorrow; the bank is closed on Mondays…” I gave him a dose of his own medicine.
“Oh hello. Today is Tuesday and if you don’t do this right now, you would not be able to finish it in time and would be late for work” he retorted back.
“What the hell”, I snapped back, “Today is Monday and I am on leave today and FYI, I am going back to sleep” I was just about to cut the call when he started laughing out loud.
“Dude, this is no April fool joke, I am damn serious, today is Monday and I am going back to sleep, if you wish to laugh your minds off it, you are welcome to do that, bye” and I angrily cut the call.
I looked at the date come on my mobile phone screen; it showed 11-Sep-07. I wondered what was wrong, why is my phone showing a date in the future… nervously I crawled out of the bedroom and into the living room to switch on the TV, I scanned for the news channel, it too showed the 11th of September, 2007 and were showing a re-run on the 9/11 bombings. I was out of my mind at that point of time, wondering what was happening, totally confused, I called in my cousin to confirm what I was experiencing, was that a dream or a reality, she told me the same thing, it was the 11th of September, 2007 a Tuesday and not Monday as I claimed to be.

Freak, I lost an entire day, I have no recollection of the day prior to this, a day was completely deleted from my life and that too my 24th birthday! I just sat there on the couch wondering was it still a dream or what was happening to me. How could I loose a day? How come? I was confused. I realized that the only thing that would actually solve this is trying to recollect all that happened before I went off to sleep… happy with that realization, I sat down on the couch trying to remember my last memory, but my memory kept failing me, I simply couldn’t make out any thing that could cause such a huge calamity, I felt like loosing my 24th year of existence that to on my birthday! Surely friends and relatives must have met me on that day, called in or sent sms wishes to me, frantically I grabbed my phone, it was the new one I purchased last night I thought, or was it the night before, my other mind was trying to live in the present while one part firmly believed that it was indeed Monday and people are playing very dirty tricks on me, but then my reasoning mind said that my near and dear ones can play such tricks but what about the TV channels, they are no friend of you. So frantically I searched for any call records or sms’s that might have been through my cell phone, there were no entries for the day, it seemed that the date 10th September, 2007 was vanished from the world and my mobile phone. For once I felt that I was going mad, but then suddenly I tried to recollect what I had done on the Sunday evening.

So, I met a few of my friends in the evening at around 7 – 7:30, and then I had gone to that mobile shop to find out if the phone that I wanted had arrived in the shop, the shopkeeper told me that it was on the way and was expected sometime soon, relieved I walked back home and started preparations for the dinner that I was treating my family to. We were going to this restaurant for the first time and we were made to wait as all the tables were full. After around half an hour we were led to a small table that catered for four and we sumptuously ate the food served there. On the way back home, I went in to the mobile shop to find out if the phone had arrived, the shopkeeper felt relieved on seeing me. He said that he tried once too many times to call me and let me know that the phone had come in. he gave me the phone, just the one that I wanted, I was happy, so were my parents and my brother, who would now get to use my current phone for which he has been longing for long now.

I then purchased the phone using my debit card and got back home. I then used my brother’s SIM card in my current phone and entered all my contacts into the new phone, carefully not making any mistakes; this took me quite some time enough for me to realize that I had a decent number of contacts on my cell phone, so once I had entered the last of the contact I set the alarm for me to get up early and go to the church for mass. And I slept.

That was all that I could remember, and no further, suddenly I was woken by Elvis asking me to do some Jailhouse Rock. I still wondered what went wrong, how did I end up loosing an entire day and that to an important day like my birthday. So I sat down frustrated and had a look at the time, it was almost time for me to get ready to go to work, but some how the feeling of missing an entire day was not settling in to me. I called up my colleague and told her that there might be a chance that I might not be in office today, she resented and told me that she had faced a lot of hardships yesterday when I was not in office and she counted on me coming to office today to solve some pending issues. I said that I’d definitely try to be in office today then, just would be a little late. I told her as I was coming to terms of this unusual feeling that had taken over me.

Just then my friend again called and I told him the entire story about loosing a complete day, he laughed at my story and told me that I would make a very good story writer, “Don’t you remember that we were at your place in the evening, you lazed around all day doing nothing at all!” I told him that I tried to remember it all but just couldn’t. He then told me to forget all about it and get to work as it was already getting late.

I am wanting to finish off this, I need some suggestions, please let me know if you have any. Let me tell you that this is actually a dream that I had on Monday and was wondering what it would be like to loose an entire day of your life… and that too your birthday!